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John. Until recently I considered myself too hairy and hated all the mess it left in the shower, in the bed, in peoples mouths and even in my laundry. Hair everywhere.

I am a physical education teacher in a school and have to wear full sweatpants and a full top and not shorts and t shirt as it looks far to sexual for the kids and I am aware of how it makes people stop and stare, and even some of the other teachers have suggested I try electrolyses or even simply shaving, but why should I ? Most people I have sex with find it too much but recently - through your Newsletter, I realised how much in demand hairy men were and I met a great guy who just salivates over my hairy legs, my hairy stomach and chest and he loves my hairy back and loves my hairy ass for days .. and I now feel so much more content within my hairy body than I ever did before.

Is this a common complaint with very hairy men ? Sam

John: I am married - 23 years now and we have 2 children ( now grown up ) and in all that time my wife hated - absolutely hated with a vengeance, the fact that I am hairy. She would constantly complain about the hair in the sink, in the bath even though I cleaned it out and she never stopped complaining about it until I got a complex. I tried various creams, and some worked for a while but nothing lasted. I tried electrolysis on my back and it did help, but I found it just grew back thicker and she found fault with even that, as if it as my fault.

Now - she knew before we married how hairy I am and how I take after my Father who my mother always called 'HAIRY LIKE A DOG' and it was a joke between them, and it was only after we married that the constant - and I mean constant - moaning started as to how much she hated it.

It made me feel bad about myself and for years, I hated my hairiness.

Then - being bisexual but never playing outside of the marriage before , I met a guy at the gym who just couldn't take his eyes off me and he followed me into the changing rooms, watched me shower and commented on how beautiful it was to see such a hairy men and how so many shave and pluck and trim and he liked what he saw. I noticed he had a hard on and we shared a wank together in the sauna, with his just staring at my hairy body.

We met outside of the gym and went back to his place and he was all over me like a rash and he so admired my hairiness and he taught me how I would be so in demand on the gay circuit as bears are sought after.

So, discretely I dived into the gay world and BOY have I found my niche and fan club... My wife seems not to care what I do, and allows me the freedom these days to ' do my own thing' as long as I pay the bills and leave her alone, so I now feel really good about my hairy body and know that my wife is wrong to constantly find fault as it is each to his own, and I am delighted with how many on the gay scene love my hairy butt etc.

I notice you offer a lot of pictures of hairy men on your newsletter, do I take it you like hairy men as well. Philip

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John: I was saddened to read about how you have been unwell and how you now have a catheter in place. I have had one ( catheter ) for the last few moths as well and was pleased to see how easily you speak of it, as I was ashamed. Now I have lightened up and even make jokes about it and that's all down to your blog .

Thanks John

Ronnie.

Good advise John concerning your UTI ( Urinary Tract Infection ) as when I had it, I asked my doctor what the cause was and he asked if I was gay - and then asked if I was active or passive, and when I said active, he told me how bare backing puts you at risk and that after a fuck YOU MUST URINATE AND EMPTY THE TANK in case of any infection from the ass getting up the dick and into the urinary tract, and your blog explained that and good for you. Absolutely well done. Wish I knew this beforehand as months ill was no joy.

Richard.

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John. I was with my partner for 45 years. He died 6 years ago. I have never felt so alone.

I sit and watch TV and YouTube all the day and evenings and my only going out is to various hospital appointments as I had a hip replacement and various other things wrong with me and I enjoy the banter with the various nurses and then I am sent home to an empty flat with no one to talk to and I am so alone.

As a couple we had friends but no one that was considered that close a friend as we had each other and when he died I realised exactly how alone I was.

The gay scene is not very supportive of things for elderly gay people and unless you live in London, there is nothing.

I try and talk to people but they see me as invisible, as I am old, and they ignore me as if I wasn't even there.

I am finding a kind of happiness in my solitude and realise that what was - was - and now my life is what it is, and at least I had those 45 years and at least I had a life - once.

I shall probably be found dead in front of the telly where I have been for a few weeks and it will be the mailman who notices a lot of mail. No one else will even know I am there.

So, I have decided to do something about it and to start with, I am coming to stay with you in the New Year and make a point of coming out of my shell more, talking and laughing more with people as complaining about my loneliness all the time puts people off. I am making strides to make changes for as I have read in your newsletter, only I can do this and while you do offer help and guidance through Hamilton Hall, only I live in my skin and only I can make / take from it what I do.

Your newsletter each week has been a God Send and has taught and helped me so much, to say nothing of the wanks I've had to some of the pictures. Thanks John. You are a magic person.

I am changing as I have to and to others in the same position, please stop feeling sorry for yourself as I once did and see the flowers, see the blue sky, see the joy that is out there in all sorts of ways and not just with others as being alone can be just as rewarding as sharing.

Matt.

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Matt is right. Only you can do whatever it is you need in your life and you should / must never rely on others to live your life for you.

Take life by the horns and lead, do not follow.

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My wife found your newsletter on my phone and went ballistic. I pointed out it was a MEN ONLY venue and not gay, as she screamed, and the double standards she screeched at me made me react. It's okay for her to have her girlfriends and they have a weekly evening together where the husbands are not allowed, ( we have no kids - her choice ) but when it comes to me wanting male only company she screamed the fucking house down.

I pointed out the double standards and all she kept saying was that ' it's different' and my answer was that she was acting like some entitled princess and that she was NOT going to get everything her way and that if I wanted male friends I damned well will have male friends or else I shall leave her to her girlfriends - as I am sure she will tell them everything, and while she now realises I am bisexual, my pointing out how she hangs around with her ' girlfriends' all the time could also be construed as being lesbian, and you should have heard her screaming. Absolutely out of control ranting.

I pointed out I was NOT going to tolerate such behaviour - such double standards - such childish self centred me me me fucking me all the time - and I walked out and have not been back.

I stayed with a friend for a few nights and have booked to come and stay with you for a week later in November and hope I can get my head around where to go next and what to do as I MOST CERTAINLY do not intend going back to that screaming banshee of a wife and do not intend putting up with that kind of abuse. I've just about had it with how she acted, totally out of control and all about her.

I am angry and hope a stay with you can help.

Robert.

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